Resolving Conflict
LISTEN to an experience where I stayed on a job and faced a very difficult situation with a boss, to learn more about myself and my relation to God:
Sentinel Radio Program published May 27, 2001 by the Christian Science Publishing Society.
I really need help with somehting. I’ve been married ten years and i still can’t get over my wife having an affair on me six months into our marriage. I’ve held my anger for so long people tell me to let it go but i just can’t. I gave her my whole heart and she killed apart of me. Recently i’ve been going to church counseling to learn to get god in my life but they say you truly can’t have god in your life if you don’t forgive. I love her with all my heart but I can’t forgive. I need help to find a way that I can forgive her we have a five year old son and he’s our life. Please help.
Hi Donutza, No doubt that what you are dealing with is one of the hardest things to deal with in this life I think. But know that you have the strength to deal with it because God is on your side. God, divine Love, that loving Shepherd is with you, guiding you, lifting you up, carrying you when necessary — helping you to get through this. Yes, I agree, you have to forgive, but how to do that? This is where building your relationship with God comes in. You must learn to put God first in your life, even before your wife. It is the all powerful love of God that enables us to forgive wrongs. God loves you so very much and loves your wife very much. In fact, God loves your wife enough to take away the evil that would cause her to do that. All of us suffer for our own wrongs and we don’t need to suffer for other people’s wrongs. Jesus was so close to God that he was able to forgive on the cross those who drove nails in his hands and feet and hung him on a cross to die. That was the power of God working in him to be able to do that, and the same God is working in you, in your heart, to be able to forgive and forget. God did this for me once, when I was in somewhat the same situation. You can read about it here.
Quite encouraging.i too i am in a difficult situation.I broke up with my wife early this year after realizing that she was dating another married. I tried to talk it over with her but she tried to avoid the topic so i had to let her go.My problem is that we have a daughter 3yrs old and she is all my happiness.kindly advise what to do.
Dear Eric,
Take this situation to God and give it to Him. God who is Love and gives you all good will show you the way, show you the proper steps to take. There is no doubt that the situation you briefly describe is a challenging one. That is why we need to depend on a higher power than ourselves to see us through these kinds of things. The 91st Psalm tells us that God give His angels charge over us to keep us in all our ways. Those angels are messages from God that lead you to all good and happiness and will show you what to do each step of the way. Your loving Father Mother God will never leave you, but is always with you.